The other side of loss

An article came across my social media a little while ago. Please take a moment to visit the link and read the article.

This part struck home:

Neil said, “The funeral wasn’t the hardest part, the hardest part was when everybody went home afterwards and I walked back into the house on my own. For the first time in forty years there was nobody there. No conversation, no television in the background, no one asking how my day had been, it was just silence. That was the moment it really hit me that Linda wasn’t coming back.”

I’ve written about grief. I’ve written about how the sharp edges become dulled over time. What I hadn’t thought about was grief’s co-conspirator—loneliness.

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When you thought things couldn’t get worse

Google, like hoover, has become a commonplace word to mean “internet search”. In the beginning it was simple, proud to give search results in fractions of a second. The company even had a motto: do no evil. Other search engines have since bowed to the inevitable. Google über alles.

Now? The motto is long gone. Alphabet, the parent corporation, is enormous with tentacles spreading into everything. Search results, initially just full of advertising, are now becoming garbage regurgitated by so-called artificial intelligence.

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Friends

This is not about the 90s TV show. I’m talking about people who enter your space and stick around for whatever reason, but aren’t family.

I made some really good friendships during my school years. After leaving school, though, we all sort of went our own ways. The friendships sort of petered out. I have no idea if others in the “gang” stayed friends, but I lost touch with all of them. Perhaps it was losing the catalyst of being at school, the shared experiences of academic life. Perhaps it was because we no longer met up in classrooms or playgrounds, every day of the week. I don’t know.

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I am not a Luddite

When I was much younger I was always trying to keep up with all the latest fads and trends, particularly in computing and software. It was part of my job, plus I really enjoyed it.

As my career and various jobs evolved my need to keep up with things faded. I now find myself several steps behind the bleeding edge of technology, and I’m okay with that. 

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