I saw this a while ago as it zipped past in my social media feed. I forget the actual wording, but my paraphrasing gives the idea.

Grief is not so much for the life lost
as for the living that now won’t happen.

This coming weekend, my family will be holding a gathering. We will be enjoying company, food, drink, and remembering my Dad and Paul. I expect there will be tears as well as laughter.